Cuckold Relationships
Firstly, I take my hat off to you for being adventurous and open to exploring this way of life.
To give you a bit of a run down on how this dynamic works, we’ll start with the basics.
What is Cuckolding?
At the most basic level, a cuckolding fetish is about a guy getting turned on by his wife or girlfriend being pleasured by someone else.
Cuckolding is a fetish that is frequently depicted as the woman, (the Cuckoldress) of a heterosexual couple engaging in sex with another man, the Bull. Her own male partner, the Cuck, is aware of this sexual relationship, and is generally a non-touching participant who derives pleasure from the degradation of seeing his partner be better satisfied with a more attractive and sexually competent male.
There’s an element of BDSM involved in cuckolding. The Cuck takes on a submissive role. In many instances, the Cuck gets turned on by the humiliation that comes with it, and still ends up sexually aroused while they watch the events unfold.
Furthermore, this form of “eroticized cheating” turns the Cuck on because they enjoy seeing their partner sexually satisfied. They may also enjoy seeing other people turned on by their partner because it means that the general population finds their partner as sexy as they do.
While this is the most frequently regarded version of a cuckold relationship, and Bulls are usually male, any person regardless of gender or identity and relationship dynamic can participate in cuckold fetish.
For many people, this fetish provides couples with a space to explore their sexual desires in a new and different way. In many ways, it’s a form of fantasy roleplay, which appeals to many couples.
Navigating a Cuckold Relationship
To navigate a cuckold relationship, the number one most important place to start is with your primary relationship. Do you have excellent communication? Can you discuss anything and everything without shame or withholding?
The second thing is to discuss at length boundaries. Consent and boundaries should be clear for all parties, including the Bull. It is important to set up well defined boundaries between the Cuck and the Cuckoldress (i.e. will the Cuckoldress decide how it will play out and give you instructions or will you be participating right from the start?)
Another important point in boundaries is to discuss the importance of honesty. The bond between the Cuck and the Cuckoldress must be maintained, and at no time should either of you engage with the Bull alone or without consent; there should be no emotional ties with the Bull from either of you.
Bringing a Bull into a relationship is similar to having a threesome or swinging. Because of this, it is greatly discouraged to choose a Bull that is not suitable for your desires. For example, choosing a friend or colleague may seem like the logical solution because you both know him and like him, but being emotionally connected to this man may affect the relationship between yourselves and is likely to produce negative emotions about the experience as a whole.
It is therefore a better option to engage a professional who intimately understands the nature of a cuckolding relationship. A professional male escort has experience in pleasure, intimacy and domination, and is better equipped to satisfy the desire you may have.
Rules to Remember
1. GO SLOW
It is common for people just starting out in this lifestyle to be surprised when they have an adverse reaction when attempting to make it a reality. For example, you may never have considered yourself jealous, but seeing your beloved embracing someone else may not go how you think.
For this reason, you must start slow. Dip your toe. Flirt at a bar. Dance with someone else in public, then talk about how you felt and how your partner felt seeing it.
Consistently check in about feelings, reactions, and fears. If these simple things go well, you may try a threesome, then, of course, talk about every aspect after. What did you like? What didn’t you like? Do you recognize the boundaries you need to set and communicate with each other and your third?
2. DO NOT TRY TO MANIPULATE YOUR PARTNER INTO THIS
There are a lot of articles online trying to teach men how to “trick” their wives into cuckolding them. I promise you that manipulating anyone is not ethically sound and likely will not end well for you.
Every aspect of your play must be understood, consensual, and communicated honestly.
If you are finding this difficult to discuss with your partner: go see a good therapist and work on communication skills. Discuss every part BEFORE you launch. Think through how you would like it to go and be transparent with each other, and your Bull, about hard limits and boundaries.
Discuss what you are both comfortable with beforehand. There are many questions to answer together even after you are both turned on by the same general fantasy. Please do not make assumptions: explore them. Make sure you are on the same page beforehand, so nobody’s feelings are hurt later.
Communication is not optional with this dynamic. Make sure everyone involved is fully aware of everyone’s desires, needs, and boundaries. Remember it is always ok to change your mind, take a break or say no to anything at any time.
3. DECIDE HOW FAR TO GO – BEFOREHAND
Every cuckold relationship is different. Some go all the way and have sex with the Bull. For others it’s just dating and kissing… and maybe oral sex.
This is incredibly important to establish for both partners. Both spouses must discuss how far they’re willing to go. This avoids any confusion and complications down the line.
Be sure to be on the same page and don’t pressure anyone to do anything. Respecting boundaries is very, very important in a healthy cuckold relationship.
If anyone becomes uncomfortable or wants to stop, it should be clearly established that everyone aborts immediately; the Bull’s state of mind must also be considered.